PARENTING FROM THE HEART
Child Attachment Theory And How To Use It
"Maternal love is our first taste of love, the origin of all feelings of love. Our mother is the person who first teaches us love, the most important subject of life. Without my mother, I could never have known how to love. Thanks to her, I can love my neighbours. Thanks to her, I can love all living beings.". ~ Thich Nhat Hanh
The very first relationship your baby will ever have is with YOU. Ain't that something! This gorgeous precious bundle of love is helpless and needs you for her survival. You are the centre of her entire universe. Your baby is learning about the world through you and from you. She will learn whether the world is a safe and trusting place and through you she will learn about love, relationships and life.
The unique bond that forms between a mother (or primary care giver) and a baby is natures way of ensuring a highly dependent infant will get his or her needs met in the early years of life. The quality of this bond is thought to determine a growing childs social, emotional and cognitive development. It's also understood to form the template for ALL her future relationships from friendships to workplace collegues and especially her life partner.
Sounds Big. It is!
However, what's reaussuring to know is that Attachment is also malleable. It can be changed, modified and strengthened over time by MINDFUL AWARE parenting and sensitive ATTUNEMENT to your child's needs and individual temperament.
Attachment theory provides us with a model of thinking about our first relationships and how they influence our mental and emotional development. The formation of what Attachement theorists call a 'secure attachment' will help buffer a child against stress and is also thought to be a primary determinant of healthy self esteem and mental resilience.
The first two years of your baby's life are a critical 'period' for developing secure attachment. There are also critical 'moments' in the intimate dance of parenting between you and your child. Understanding how attachment develops in the first years of your baby's life will not only help deepen and enrich your mothering experience it will also enhance your baby’s attachment with you.
In this important and informative talk Australian Attachment expert and local mum Ruth Sugden will explain exactly what Attachment theory is and how it applies to your mothering.
She will discuss the benefits of Secure Attachment (SA) and discuss a few highlights of the latest research in this area.
Ruth will also include some simple and effective tools and practices to help increase your bond with your baby and help your baby develop a healthy secure attachment that will endure into adulthood.
"If the world was 100% securely attached we'd have world peace and happiness in one generation." ~ Ruth Sugden
Ruth Sugden is an Occupational Therapist, an individual, couple and family therapist and an attachment coach. She has both undergraduate and post graduate qualifications from the University of Queensland, The Australian Institute for Relationship Studies and The University of New South Wales. She has done clinical studies at the Tavistock Centre and the Institute of Group Analysis in London and with Emeritus Professor L. Alan Sroufe at the University of Minnesota. Ruth was a lecturer at the University of Sydney (Faculty of Health Sciences) for 12 years and has worked extensively in all areas of mental health since 1978. She is passionate about the importance of secure attachment.